Sunday, July 13, 2014

My Mother, My Friend

Mom and Dad on a date
         
Mom on her honeymoon
 The first friend any of us have is our mother. And my mother was the best friend I could have ever had. She taught me how to embrace life and that the more love you give away, the more you are blessed with in your heart. She was cute when she was young, beautiful as a young woman and each year that passed brought her even more beauty. Here's a photo tribute to her.

Mom when I was a girl
Mom and some of her grandchildren
Mom and her sisters














Dementia stole her memories but not her spirit. And now as one of our family members said, the big four are together again. She meant Mom and her sisters. They did know how to laugh together and have a good time.  
 
One of my favorite pictures of Mom

Mom and one of her great grandchildren
Mom loved all her grandchildren and then when the great-grandchildren came along, she was ready with smiles and love for them too. 








Mom helping me make her famous crackerjacks


She didn't do a lot of needlework or craft type things, but she did have some specialities, like making delicious crackerjacks and a chocolate pie that was out of this world. She crocheted one afghan and wove one basket just to prove she could. She also once picked wild cherries to make jelly and she brought home huckleberries from Oregon and made wine. She had fun trying new things. 
 


   
Mom holding her youngest great grandchild

Mom loved babies. Each new addition to the family was treasured. During her last weeks at the memory care facility, her baby doll could always bring a smile as she carefully held and loved it. I'm so blessed that I was once that baby she held and loved.


Mom doing Physical Therapy

My mother passed Saturday morning with a last whisper of breath. I was with her when she went. I didn't see the angels that came to get her, but I know they were there. I will miss her smiles and kisses, but I celebrate her life well lived. My mother, Olga Elizabeth, headed on up to glory after 94 years here with us. I'm glad I was able to share so many of those years with her. I'm thankful she was my mother, my friend.

Mom's last good picture at The Lantern
Thank you for your many prayers and kind thoughts and comments as you read some of my posts about Mom's dementia. So many of you have walked the same hard roads or have lost your beloved mothers to other illnesses. We join hearts to remember all those beautiful mothers and if your mother is still with you, give her a hug for all of us who can no longer hug our moms. 





30 comments:

  1. Ann, I know my words are inadequate at this time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your precious mother is whole again and the wonderful times and memories that you have will be treasured always. Your writings of her today are just beautiful and so fitting for such a one called mother.

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    1. She was a sweet mother, Melanie. Strong and capable and loving. I always wanted to be just like her. Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and prayers. They mean so much at a time like this.

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  2. My condolences to you and your family. I lost my dad on Good Friday, also at 94 years old. Although I don't miss watching his body fail, suffer, and finally die, I miss my daddy. The daddy I remember from childhood and youth, the healthy and strong dad that helped build our house, the wise dad that gave me lots of good advice as I've moved through young adulthood into middle age. Living without parents, no matter how incapacitated they may have been, is a new, and sometimes very lonely state of being. I suppose we'll get used to it eventually. In the meantime, there are those comforting memories to tide us over.

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    1. That's how it is, isn't it, Nancy? We miss the way they were, whole of mind and body. Mom was such a strong spirit but some of that is still with me. I'll miss having her to hug even if she didn't know who I was, but I won't miss how much she looked like she was suffering this last week. She's shaken free of all that and ready to get going on eternity. But we do miss our mamas and dads. May your grief lessen as the days go by and your joy in remembering his life and love will increase.

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  3. What a beautiful tribute for a beautiful lady. I'm sorry to hear of your mothers passing. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

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    1. Thank you, Amy. Prayers are powerful and it's such a blessing to have friends willing to take time to pray for you. Mom was a beautiful lady.

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  4. Thank you for these beautiful pictures, Ann - I'm crying like a baby as I look at them, I felt like I knew your mother through your posts. But I'm also rejoicing that she is no longer in pain, has a new, completely healed, body and mind and is joyfully reunited with her parents, sisters, and her Lord!!

    In response to your above comments: I have a feeling you're exactly like the Mom you wanted to be like!! I'm thinking of you (even more so when I take my Mom to the doctor today) and praying for your strength, peace, comfort, joy, rest, and writing!! Love you, Ann - my sister-in-Christ!! May God bless you ten fold for the inspiration He provides through your writing!!

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    1. Aww, Bonnie, you are such a tender heart. I hope your mom had a good doctor visit. And what a nice prayer for me. Inspiration, strength, peace, comfort, joy, rest and writing! That's a great list. Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers.

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  5. Thank you for sharing your mother through this beautiful tribute, Ann. What a gift she has given to the world through you. Love and blessings.

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    1. Thank you so much, Sue. I appreciate you taking the time to read about Mom. She was a beautiful lady.

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  6. Ann, thank you for sharing you loving thoughts about your precious mother. I'm here alone and your words gave me the freedom to weep again for my blessed mother who has been gone many years now. I remember her face and her words so clearly it's almost as if she is with me. I pray you will have this same comfort.

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    1. I don't think we ever forget our mothers. I know my mother wished often for her mother in her last years. That's who she wanted most to be with and now she is. Hope the tears you shed were sweet memory ones for your mother.

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  7. Beautiful tribute, Ann. My heart is aching for you, may God grant you peace at this time. Cherish the memories. Rachel Lepree

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    1. I do cherish my times with Mom, Rachel. She was such a loving mother and so supportive through the years. Thank you for your prayers. I do so appreciate them.

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  8. Lots of wonderful memories. What words can't say a picture can. Much love. Sorry for your loss. When I loss my Dad I did same thing had a video made with pictures. It was eat to kinda watch what life had bought me through a wonderful father. Prayers for you and family.
    Blessings
    Diana

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    1. We watched the video tonight at the funeral home of the pictures we gathered of Mom with family members, Diana. So sweet and took us back in time. It was neat traveling through the years with Mom in those pictures. Thanks so much for your prayers.

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  9. Ann, I, too, have tears in my eyes. Looking at the beautiful pictures of your mom, reminding me of my own beautiful mom. I live in PA and she is in AR but I visit her spring & fall. I do treasure her as a friend and feel so blessed. I talk with her by phone several times a day! What a day your mom is having just sitting at Jesus' feet, worshipping her Saviour! May God continue to enfold you and your family in His tender, loving care....Linda

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    1. It's hard to be so many miles from your mother, Linda, but we can be thankful for telephones and ways to connect, can't we? Mom is having a good day in heaven, I'm sure. Thank you so much for your prayers. They mean so much.

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  10. Ann, I am so sorry for your loss. Tears of sorrow and joy mix together for the life she lived and the one she is living now. {{hugs}}

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    1. Thanks, Anne. You're right that tears of sorrow and joy do mix as we go through life. Mom had a good long life and she was always ready to enjoy whatever the days brought her. She hadn't enjoyed many of the recent days, but now she's laughing in heaven.

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  11. What a beautiful tribute to you precious mom! Praying for you.

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    1. Thanks, Chris. I appreciate you taking time to read about Mom and also, always for your prayers.

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  12. I wish I had known your mother during her laughing and loving years. What a legacy she left you. I'll never forget the words of the nurse in the book, Christy. She spoke of her Quaker father who said that "My job is to see that thee has a happy childhood tucked under thy jacket." That's the best gift your mother gave you-- that happy childhood tucked away deep in your soul. May that peace which passes all understanding cover your family as you grieve.

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    1. You would have liked Mom, Wendy. And she surely did tuck a happy childhood under my jacket. Leave it to you to always come up with the perfect quote. Thank you so much. Your prayers for Mom and for us over the hard years meant so much and I appreciate your prayers now.

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  13. A beautiful tribute of you mother. I pray the God of all comfort is with you and your family.

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    1. Thank you so much, Stacie. I so appreciate your prayers and thoughts.

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  14. This is so beautiful and sweet. My heart goes out to you as I know what it is to lose your sweet sweet Mother. Loved the pictorial tribute and memories written alongside. A fitting sweet tribute to a wonderful sweet lady, your Mother. She had to be so proud of her beautiful family - I'm sure you all brought her much happiness. May God grant you that peace that passes all understanding at this time - it's amazing to experience. Much love and hugs, Nita (Juanita Phillips Jones)

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    1. So good of you to drop by here and read about Mom, Juanita. I so appreciate your kind words and you surely do know way too much about losing those you love too soon. My mom did love her family and I never doubted I was loved by her just as you knew your mom loved you. Thanks so much for your prayers and those hugs too.

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  15. Ive been away and just got to reading this post. Let me offer my deepest condolences. My prayers are with you and your family.

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    1. Thank you, Kevin. I appreciate your prayers for me and mine. Mom had a difficult last few months.

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